Getting older is inevitable, but being older doesn’t mean your sex life is over. While there are health difficulties that can arise with advancing age, there are plenty of ways to mitigate those difficulties and even eliminate them with some careful lifestyle planning and awareness.
And sex over 50 changes considerably, due to mobility challenges and changes in energy levels. But sex can still be a vibrant part of your life when you plan to make space for it. And a lot of that planning is in the realm of attitude and approach. Let’s look at a few simple life hacks that can help couples over 50 improve their sex life.
Free Your Mind
Aging is not the same for every living person. For one, your mental attitude toward aging can change the game. Many people approach getting older with trepidation, horrified at the changes their bodies are undergoing. They settle into a mindset of allowing nature to take its course, never thinking that “nature” needs their help. But it does!
You can give nature a hand by committing to a mindset that sees the positives in getting older. You know more. You have a wealth of life experience – including about sex. That means you’re better prepared to get creative in the bedroom, right? And indeed, creativity that helps you work around reduced energy and/or mobility issues that can make sex difficult, is the heart of good sex.
When your mind is free to see the possibilities, you’re not bound by convention. You can introduce costuming, role play, exotic sex toys, and other creative solutions that make sex more fun and adventurous.
Work With Your Whole Self
Your body isn’t just something you live in. Your body is you. Loving your body at any age means loving it unconditionally. And love is an action.
Hitting 50 is no time to sit on your laurels, for that reason. In fact, people in their 50s should spend as much time ministering to the needs of their body and mind as possible. The more you give yourself, the more you will be rewarded with a healthy organism ready for anything, including sex!
Wellness is a holistic project, encompassing the fullness of the human organism. Giving your body what it needs feeds your mind. And giving your mind what it needs feeds your body. Your human body-mind is a series of systems working together for optimal function. And when everything’s in fine working order, you’re much more sexually inclined!
Work with your mind to create a positive attitude about aging that supports proactive behaviors like eating well, getting enough sleep, drinking enough water, meditation, and regular exercise. When you work with your whole self to maintain the wonder of the human organism, you’ll learn to love being older. It’s a profound experience that many never get to enjoy. So make it count by setting yourself up for a happy sex life with healthy habits.
Tools for Better Sex After 50
- Open communication: If things aren’t going well in the bedroom, it’s probably because you’re not talking about it. But you need to. You need to be open about how you’re feeling. Is your sex life flagging? Do you feel ignored? Talk about it. Because there is nothing more intimate than open communication.
- Other ways of having sex: Sex is too often equated with intercourse. But there are many different ways for both partners to reach orgasm and be satisfied that don’t involve intercourse. If erectile dysfunction and/or vaginal atrophy and dryness are in play, add sensual touch and novelty. Using your hands and mouths to satisfy each other is just as sexy as intercourse and for some, much more comfortable and less anxiety-inducing. Bust out the lube and a toy and pleasure each other!
- Getting ready for love: Anticipation is half the fun of sexual intimacy, so make “dates” to have sex. Then, prepare your bedroom with candles, incense, low lighting and all the fun stuff you plan to introduce to your lovemaking, from sex toys to blindfolds, handcuffs, and costumes. Set the scene and watch the walls come tumbling down!
- Make it last: Sex is not a drive-thru burger. And now that you’re getting older, you can stake your claim to slow sex without apology. Take your time. Explore. Play. Rushing through sex is the enemy of intimacy, so cherish the time you spend together pleasuring each other. Whisper sensual words of love and regale each other with prolonged touching, kissing, and pleasing.
Sex after 50 should be every bit as gloriously satisfying as it was in your youth. You may not be swinging from any chandeliers, but who says that’s sexy? Follow the advice in this article and before you know it, you’ll be the poster couple for a satisfyingly blissful sex life after 50!
Written by: Aaron Smith
About the author: Aaron Smith is an LA-based content strategist and consultant in support of STEM firms and medical practices. He covers industry developments and helps companies connect with clients. In his free time, Aaron enjoys swimming, swing dancing, and sci-fi novels.
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