Following any traumatic event that alters our lifestyle and shakes us to our very core, we are faced with the aftermath of how to recover from it. As we attempt to restore our lives to some form of normalcy, we often find ourselves maneuvering through obstacles to reach our new reality. Our likelihood of success will be predicated on the skills we possess and the techniques we use to guide us along our road to recovery.
To effectively move forward after a stressful and painful experience, take these 10 essentials with you on your journey.
(1) Support of Others:
As you begin your recovery, surround yourself with family and friends who believe in you. These are the individuals who will encourage, advise, and be there for you in your time of need. Make them an integral part of the process while avoiding others who are disparaging and unnecessarily toxic to your sense of self.
After a significant ordeal, it will take time to heal. Be good to yourself. Dedicate extra care to your mental and physical well-being with a greater emphasis on exercising, eating healthy food, sleeping 7 to 8 hours a day, meditating, and having fun. Do not push or compromise the time required to fully recover.
Our lives can be completely interrupted and thrown into chaos in response to adversity. To effectively deal with these disruptions, focus on what you can control and set aside the rest. Let go of the hope that your life will go back to what it once was. In the wake of hardships, there will be a new norm or reality. Understand what this might mean to you and explore how best to manage it.
(4) Sense of Purpose:
Having a sense of purpose can help you cope with and recover from hardships. It offers you a sense of direction that will lead to a more meaningful and rewarding life. Purpose gives you the motivation to concentrate on what counts.
Be an active learner in your effort to make informed decisions that will shape your future. Do the research, ask questions, and seek answers from reliable sources that will enable you to make smart choices. As new opportunities emerge from the turmoil, check their validity against facts and figures before rushing into anything.
(6) Course of Action:
Planning is key to designing and implementing a fresh course of action. Evaluate your new norm in terms of its impact on your financial, physical, and mental stability. Start letting go of the past and begin to envision a better future. To realize your vision, establish a set of realistic goals and action steps that will take you through the following 6 months to a year. During times of personal chaos and uncertainty, be willing to adjust any part of your plan that no longer seems achievable.
Good intentions are not enough to get you through a crisis and on to a better life. For your best shot, make a commitment to yourself that includes not only initiating but staying true to your aspirations. Once you do, you will be more likely to try harder, look for solutions despite the obstacles, and stay the course without wavering. As a committed person, you will gain a better sense of self and the balance between what you desire and what you can realistically achieve.
(8) Belief in Yourself:
Believe that you have the skills and experience to change your life for the better. While recovery can be an arduous journey with setbacks along the way, keep your focus on moving forward. Adopt the attitude that you can, and you will find your way through any obstacles.
A positive approach to your healing process can alleviate the stress and strain. Find the joy in surrounding yourself with people who make you happy and the activities that give you peace of mind. Stay away from engaging in abusive behaviors or actions that might lead to the excessive use of food, alcohol, or drugs.
The upheaval that arises during turbulent times can wreak havoc on your emotional well-being. On your road to recovery, keep yourself in check by carefully monitoring your mental, physical, and spiritual health. If you find your progress is being hindered, seek the professional help you need to successfully heal.
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Written by: Patricia K. Flanigan, Smart Strategies for Successful Living
Patricia K. Flanigan has worked in higher education for over 28 years. She holds a doctoral degree in Organizational Leadership from the University of La Verne as well as a M.A. in Latin American Studies and B.A. in Anthropology from the University of California, Los Angeles. Before retiring and moving to Idaho in 2015, she served as the dean of online education and learning resources at Saddleback College, a large community college in Southern California. She currently consults in higher education, volunteers for AARP, writes for a local magazine, and serves as an Affiliate Faculty member at Boise State University and a contributing member to LEARN Idaho. Since February 2017, she has been the founding director for Smart Strategies for Successful Living, a community-based website designed to promote quality aging. As an educator, her focus is to inspire others to live and age well.
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